Calm in the Storm: Responding with Compassion to Children’s Intense Emotions

 “Wherever did we get the crazy idea that in order to make children [and adults] do better,first we have to make them feel worse?” Jane Nelson

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“When he gets in a state, I just don’t know what to do.”

“Sometimes it’s just easier to cave in and let her have what she wants, just for a bit of quiet.”

“I hear the words come out of my mouth before I can stop them. I sound just like my dad.”


Are you a parent of a toddler or a teenager or are you an educator who has felt frustration, anger, anxiety worry or overwhelm around the intensity of a young child’s or teenager’s emotions? Have you ever felt unsure of what to do when supporting a child in distress? Or have you ever ended up blaming yourself – full of self-judgement?

This course is designed to help you stay calm in the middle of the storm.

As a young teenage single parent I know there were many times when I acted in ways towards my children that horrified me and left me feeling guilty and full of shame. I so wish I’d had access to the skills and approaches I now have…and I’m still, you might be relieved to hear, very much NOT a perfect parent, grandparent or great grandparent!

Over my 30 years experience as a teacher, education adviser, counsellor and in my one-to-one and family work with parents and teachers, I have often heard people say they ‘don’t know what to do’ or they experience intense despair or anger when children are in high states of distress. Yet how we respond to young children experiencing intense emotions has a dramatic effect on their ability to handle relationship conflicts now and in the future. Feeling empowered to respond also leaves us with more energy and joy to respond in ways, I believe, all parents and educators want.

I am also a parent, grandparent and great grandparent, and my precious children and grandchildren have been my greatest teachers!

In this course, built on the principles of Nonviolent Communication, we will explore ways of responding,  even in difficult melt-down situations.

In a safe and supportive environment you will learn how to:

– Calm yourself in the moment so that you can be fully resourced to respond to children in distress

– Make close connections with children so that they can thrive and not merely survive

– Get clear about what is going on in your child’s brain when they are experiencing intense emotions like anger and fear

– Simply BE alongside children in distress

– “Talk the same language” as a child in distress and come up with strategies that work for both of you.

Who is the course for?

Suitable for: parents, grandparents, care givers and educators wanting to care for their children compassionately.
If you have attended a Foundation Course in NVC or something similar, this workshop is an opportunity to deepen your NVC practice and strengthen your connections with your children or those you teach


Location: The Education Centre, Wheatfields Hospice, Headingley, Leeds

Date: Sunday February 25th, 2018, 10am – 5pm

Financial Contribution Requested: Sliding Scale: £60 – £90 including  a £10.00 deposit payable during the booking process.  When you choose what to contribute, please consider my needs for sustainability in continuing to offer this work, as well as your needs to support yourself. As I want NVC to be available to EVERYONE, please contact me if the cost would prevent you from coming.

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