What is Nonviolent Communication [NVC]?
“NVC is a simple yet powerful methodology for communicating in a way that meets both parties needs, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life is one of the most useful books you will ever read.” William Ury, Author of “Getting to Yes” and “Third Side”
Improve the Quality of Your Relationships by Changing How You Communicate
From the home to the workplace, from the classroom to the war zone, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is changing lives every day. NVC provides an easy to grasp, effective method to get to the root of violence, pain and conflict peacefully. By examining the unmet needs behind what we do or say, NVC helps reduce conflict and strengthens professional and personal relationships.
NVC is now being taught in corporations, classrooms, prisons and mediation centres around the globe. It is effecting cultural shifts as institutions, corporations and governments integrate NVC into their organizational structures and their approach to leadership.
International peacemaker, mediator, author and founder of the Centre for Nonviolent Communication, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg spends more than 250 days each year teaching NVC, including to some of the most impoverished, war-torn areas of the world. More than 200 certified trainers and hundreds more share NVC in 35 countries to approximately 250,000 people each year.
Why do people find value in learning NVC?
Most of us are hungry for skills that can improve the quality of our relationships, to deepen our sense of personal empowerment or simply help us communicate more effectively. Unfortunately, most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand and diagnose; to think and communicate in terms of what is “right“ and “wrong“ with people. At best, the habitual ways in which we think and speak hinder communication and create misunderstanding and frustration. Still worse, they can cause anger and pain, and may lead to violence. Without wanting to, even people with the best of intentions generate needless conflict.
“Nonviolent Communication is a simple, yet powerful methodology for communicating in a way that meets both parties needs. [Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life] is one of the most useful books you will ever read.” William Ury Co-author of “Getting to Yes” Author of “The Third Side”
NVC helps us reach beneath the surface and discover what is alive and vital within us, and how all of our actions are based on human needs that we are seeking to meet. We learn to develop a vocabulary of feelings and needs that helps us more clearly express what is going on in us, and understand what is going on in others, at any given moment. When we understand and acknowledge our needs, we develop a shared foundation for much more satisfying relationships. Join the thousands of people worldwide who have improved their relationships and their lives with this simple yet revolutionary process.
What are the Components of the NVC Process?
While NVC is much more than a communication model, the components below provide a structural concept of the process that leads to a reduction in conflict and enhanced well-being:
- Honestly Expressing how I am and what I would like without using blame, criticism or demands
- Empathically Receiving how another is and what he/she would like without hearing blame, criticism or demands.
Whether expressing or receiving, NVC focuses our attention on four pieces of information:
- Observations—Objectively describing what is going on without using evaluation, moralistic judgment, interpretation or diagnosis
- Feelings—Saying how you feel (emotions and body sensations) about what you have observed without assigning blame
- Needs—The basic human needs that might or might not be met and are the source of feelings
- Requests—Clear request for actions that can meet needs.
Taken and adapted from: “Key Facts About the Nonviolent Communication Process,” PuddleDancer Press
For more information about Nonviolent Communication visit the Centre for Nonviolent Communication website at www.cnvc.org